Is your relationship on the rocks?

Robin Bryant, Ph.D. can help you mend any relationship with expert relationship counseling. Whether you’re fighting a lot, or you’d simply like to reignite a spark, there are several changes you can make to improve the quality of your relationship, and these are explored in depth during our sessions.

In most cases of relationship trouble, there is no need for a big intervention. Simply making small adjustments to your daily habits can help your partnership greatly, whether you’re dating or married. After all, good relationships require love, attention, and healthy compromise to truly flourish.

We compiled a list of the 7 things you can do to help you improve your relationship. You may come to find these can quickly change the tone of your life as a couple, mitigate misunderstandings, and create a stronger bond.

  1. Practice Active Listening

    2. Whether it be a romantic or platonic relationship, the same truth stands. Communication is key.

    In order to properly communicate with each other, each party should practice active listening and make sure their partner feels heard and understood in their daily interactions. If you know, you’re one to talk a lot in general, be aware of this and ensure you’re not talking over your significant other.

    There is a fair chance one of you is less assertive than the other, and you should allow them to share their thoughts and anecdotes without necessarily contributing something else to the conversation, especially when they’re not yet done speaking.

    In our couples’ therapy, we learn how to listen to each other actively. This helps foster feelings of understanding and respect.

  2. Take a Good Look at What You Contribute to the Relationship

    3. Are the dynamics of your relationship fair? Are you putting in too much or too little? These are important elements to consider when thinking introspectively about your situation as a couple.

    Instead of each of you focusing on what the other is not bringing to the table, try to think about what you can do yourself to better the relationship. If each of you is focused on your own behavior and actions, it will be much easier to create a healthy and happy life with each other.

    Of course, it’s good to focus on what you’re bringing to the relationship in terms of what your significant other’s wants and needs are, and you’ll be able to explore these during your relationship counseling sessions openly.

  3. Offer Focused Attention

    4. When you’re in a committed relationship, making your partner feel important and special is paramount.

    In a digital age, where there are distractions left and right, unlimited access to information and continuous connection to others’ lives online, it’s essential to spend quality time with your significant other.

    Take some time each day where you put your cellular device down and remain present with your partner. There are countless benefits to this, and you will both feel closer and more appreciated.

  4. Ensure You Put in Effort Every Day (Even on Your Bad Days)

    5. Sometimes, it can be hard not to allow your bad days to affect your relationship. Take the time to consciously realize when you are letting your bad mood get the best of you and stopping you from being a good partner.

    Part of being in a relationship is offering love and affection and putting this before all else. It’s normal to not be at the same level all the time, but if you start letting your personal problems affect how you treat your significant other, this will undoubtedly cause issues in the long run and foster bad habits.

    If you’re prone to this, Robin Bryant, Ph.D. will teach you appropriate coping mechanisms and cues to better deal with these situations. And your relationship will no longer suffer for it.

  5. Offer Words of Encouragement Instead of Criticism

    6. We know it can be hard to hold yourself back, especially in the heat of the moment, but if criticism becomes a constant within your relationship, it is normal that your significant other may start to feel like they’re not good enough. This is not to say that you can’t ask for things when you want them and make suggestions. It’s all in the phrasing.

    When you frame the things, you’d like as encouragement rather than criticism, you are approaching it in a positive tone rather than the negative. It’s always important to communicate with each other when something is lacking, but make sure you aren’t bringing your partner down in the process. It can be overwhelming for them, and resentment can build as a result.

  6. Add a Little More Romance to the Equation

    7. Sometimes when you’ve been together for a while, the romance in your relationship may begin to fizzle out. Life can get pretty busy, and your romantic life may end up on pause.

    Planning dates and spending intimate time together should never become something of the past. You and your partner should put aside the time for these things as they help keep the relationship feeling fresh and alive.

  7. Foster Trust with Open & Honest Lines of Communication

    8. Last but certainly not least, for any relationship to work, there needs to be trust.

    If you are constantly doubting that your partner is faithful or you think that they’re hiding something, you must open up the lines of communication. Both parties need to be completely honest with each other in terms of their feelings, their insecurities as well as what they’re up to.

    If there is lying going on in your relationship, there can’t be a sense of trust. With the help of a relationship counselor, you and your partner can get to the bottom of things step by step, and learn how to communicate and thus, how to trust.

Relationship Counseling: Call Us to Start Working on It!

If you want to improve your relationship and create a stronger and healthier bond with your significant other, Robin Bryant, Ph.D. will help you get there.

Call us now at (212) 721-8910 to schedule your first session.